Posted: April 20, 2010 in "writing", donna o'brien, Pretty Woman, romantic thrillers, time

Time to shop, eat, and sleep, time to work, play, and sing, time to listen, laugh and cry…a time for all seasons. That’s my very liberal paraphrase of the verse in Ecclesiastes. But the message is the same. There is a time for everything. The trick? The trick is in finding the right combination so you can fit as much into this life as it has to offer.

Everyone is aware of the concept of time. It begins the moment  when as children we are told that we will have to wait until a certain amount of it has passed before we are allowed our request. The older we get, the faster it seems to go.

If you ask someone about their life, their response will generally involve something they’ve done or an upcoming event. Rarely will they respond with what they are doing at that exact moment. Does that mean that no one lives in the moment? Most often, the answer is yes. We are always wishing things were the way were in times past or just hanging on for a future event to unfold. If only…??? If only we could appreciate the time we have at the moment.

Now believe me, there is no gorgeous beach before me nor rum anywhere in sight, (dang it!) so I am not just waxing poetic about some dreamy sunset. But I am in a place in my life where time has become a double-edged sword.  I want it to pass quickly so that someone in my life can be done with a very hard time in their’s. I want it to go slowly so that I can treasure each moment I have with all of those in my life who are precious to my heart. I also want it to slow down so that I can fit everything I need to do into the ever shrinking hours of each day, as well as some of the things I just want to do.

So I steal the moments when at two in the morning, one of my dear someone’s is a little chemically blissed — thanks to his IV, and cracking jokes that only he understands. But his laughter and smile are my medicine and better than any sleep I’ve ever had. Or when I come home and am wrapped in multiple hugs by other precious ones and their love replenishes me in so many ways.

I also write because it it allows me to do several things at once. And I am a big fan of the multi-tasking. I can visit with the characters in my head and allow their problems to take precedence over mine for a while. (Not voices…characters…big difference. Really.)  My imagination is not right or wrong, there is no mistake I cannot fix when I write — if only life had a backspace! The beautiful thing about writing is the creativity, the fact that you took nothing…blank piece of paper…or screen as the case may be, and made something that conveys image, emotion, and hopefully a cohesive thought. But whatever it is, you built it from scratch from your brain through your fingers to page or screen.

I LOVE that. It’s exciting and addicting and it’s a very positive thing in my life that I have complete control over. I say when, I say who, I say how….oops, started channeling “Pretty Woman” there for a minute. But you get the picture. In a crazy world, where virtually nothing is in our control anymore, this is my way to exert some authority in my own life. Now, this does not mean that my writing is boring and staid, and completely orderly. Far from it — I write romantic thrillers….romance, thrillers?? Never a boring combination! 🙂 But I get to decide what happens, well as long as my characters agree, and we have an amazing journey along the way.  Hopefully, soon you’ll be able to join us.

Until then, try to remember you can’t live in the past and the future will be here before you know it. Don’t waste all the moments you have in between now and then wishing for one or the other. Enjoy your life as much as possible in each moment that you have. Do what makes you happy. If you can’t do it for a living, do it on the side. But do it, damn it. Don’t wish your life away. Live it. Be thankful for it and if it’s not the way you want it at the moment, change it. It is YOUR life.

What will you do with your time?


Donna O’Brien


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